Consent to Kiss
About Consent to Kiss (CTK)
Imagine the possibility of reducing the number of victims of sexual violation by hundreds of millions. Consent to Kiss (CTK) is a proactive campaign to let people know that it's neither sexy nor acceptable to just grab and kiss a woman on a date or at any time without proper consent. Our two main goals are:
- Allow any woman to add "CTK" on her dating profiles, and for it to be understood that this woman is saying "if you want to kiss me, you better ask".
.... we just need to enroll one or two dating app CEOs!
- Have the tv and movies industry feature CTK by showing examples of how sexy it can be for someone to ask consent to kiss, and discuss how wrong it is to steal or force a kiss (which is the the current social norm they have established).
.... we just need to enroll one or celebrities in Hollywood!
By changing social norms, and having consent dialog start one step earlier, we set the precedent for people to set better boundaries and safe sex conversation, and thus reduce the horrendous number of sexual violations from forced kisses (~2/3 US women) and rape (~1/5 US women). For many young men, they don't even realize asking for a kiss is an option and many women have never been asked.
If you want to help us in this campaign, please visit the official website! : www.consenttokiss.com/help
Better yet buy the book and leave a review!
Genesis of the Idea
Consent to Kiss (CTK) is a project I started in 2020, when a friend of mine, let's call her Samantha, told me about a really bad date where the guy pulled down her (covid) masked and forced a kiss on her twice. I've heard similar stories before and I didn't want to stand for it, so I decided if "CTK" (Consent to Kiss) became a known acronym, Samantha, plus millions of girls like her, could add "CTK" on her online profile to let guys know that "if you want to me you have to ask". We don't want to stand for a world where television and movies always portray kisses as men just leaning in without asking - because guess what - life isn't like the movies. Men don't all look like Brad Pitt, and women often don't want to kiss you, even when you think they do. I immediately registered the domain www.consenttokiss.com and started a website, but it would take me two years of thought and discussion with friends to formulate a good plan to deploy CTK.
It wasn't until July 2022 I started to really push it hard, and decided to join forces with my best friend Lyuba - to draw on her experience as an intimacy coach - and write a book.... then to start pursuing dating app CEOs and celebrities.
- consenttokiss.com - The website I created on this topic.