Relationship anarchy (RA) is the application of anarchist (anti-hierarchical) principles to intimate relationships. Its values include autonomy, anti-normativity, radical transparency, flexible aggreement and it is commonly, but not always, non-monogamous.
Relationship Anarchy Manifesto
The RA social movement that was started by Andie Nordgren in 2006 with her “[Relationship Anarchy Manifesto]”. Here is the excerpt from the top of this menifesto:
Love is abundant, and every relationship is unique
Love and respect instead of entitlement
Find your core set of relationship values
Heterosexism is rampant and out there, but don’t let fear lead you
Build for the lovely unexpected
Fake it til’ you make it
Trust is better
Change through communication
Customize your commitments
Key Concepts for Relationship Anarchy
Mostly summarized from this article.
- Radical Transparency - To make an authentic and informed decision about a relationship/agreement, they need transparency. This is not about over-sharing and loose boundaries, but letting a partner know what is true for you in the moment.
- Flexible Agreements - People grow and change often throughout their lives, so and with changing personalities comes changes in relationship dynamics. Loving-kindness and flexible aggreements are held over rigid expectations.
- All Relationships are Unique Unto Themselves - An acknowledging that all relationships are unique, should be celbrated, and should not be compared in value and should not be compared in value.
- Start from Within - Regardless of your relationship preferences mono/poly/etc, the most important relationship is with yourself.
- Monogamous to polyamorous scale - A fun scale to work out your preferred relationship style both romantically and sexually.
- Relationship anarchy - Wikipedia - The definition.
- What is Relationship Anarchy? - A beautifully written article by Amelia Lichtenberg.